Sexting is an outstanding way to heat things up with a potential partner on a dating app, but there is a perfect way and a wrong way to go about it.
The online dating world at some point mirrors the old-fashioned way of doing things – and it’s essential to keep this in mind. The safety of a screen can give way to a boldness where some persons forget their manners, and it can be difficult to know at what point full-on sexting is okay.
What is the end goal here?
Are you looking for a one-time hookup, repeat casual encounters, or a relationship? Perhaps it’s too early to tell, and that’s okay too. Being aware of how to proceed can have a lot to do with where this is going. But if what you are seeking is purely a hookup, it is essential to respect the other person by keeping them informed and be transparent on the up-front about your intentions. And even if both parties mutually agree to keep it casual, that doesn’t give license to continue to pepper them with raunchy texts.
Don’t immediately go in for the kill.
Start small, like professing a desire to kiss them, and build up to the sexy stuff, just as you would in real life. This approach benefits you in several ways: One, your potential partner may just not be into a online encounter, and this provides you with an out before you push them past the point of no return. Two, it provides them time to warm up to the idea and get into their virtual pants. Three, it doesn’t scare them away with too much too quickly, like sending a body parts pic after the first date – this is grounds for quick dismissal.
Another point to consider: it would be wise to move such intimate conversation off-line and into the format of traditional text messages. Privacy is crucial when it comes to hanky-panky.
Once things warm up and you receive definitive confirmation that she is ready, sext to your little heart’s desire. The green light indicates no holds barred; photos are acceptable at this point. The best sexts are very descriptive and sketch out the process in a slow tease towards the finish line. Sext anytime, anywhere. And once you’ve joined that naughty territory virtually, things are also likely to go in the bedroom as well, unless you are both interested in an online-only affair.
And don’t be discouraged if sexting isn’t the object of your desire’s “thing.” It doesn’t mean that he/she isn’t interested. While sexting is a fun, flirty way to engage, authentic, real life chemistry is what finalizes the deal.